Giving Yugee Her Golden Red Flowers.

Decembers are for reminiscing. Decembers are for chilling with family. Decembers are for the joys of igba nkwu, mkporo, ibu mmanya and all the other terms Ndi Igbo have for weddings. Decembers are also for observing. Decembers are also for long conversations with Big Aunties, Big Das and old women who walk around Eziukwu with…

Dear Men, My Body Won’t Be Altered To Keep You Comfortable.

One of my favorite television Nigerian talk shows is Moments which airs on EbonyLifeTV. Growing up, I always looked forward to Sunday evenings because I got the chance to watch the original Moments. It was hosted by Mo Abudu who was the pioneer talk show host. Some of the topics she chose that I can…

#IWD2019: Religious Feminists, Let’s Let Go of Submission, Sexual Purity and Modesty (Even If They Are Preached To Men Too)

Not too long ago, I came across three things on the internet that set me on a path of deep reflection. Seeing as today is International Women’s Day, I thought it imperative to share my journey to no longer agreeing with them even when they are applied to men. This is especially as our theme…

Why I No Longer Agree With Being Called A Proverbs 31 Christian Woman: Call Me Vashti Instead.

I was about twelve when I first discovered the writer Buchi Emecheta’s body of work which centred on the experiences of the Igbo woman. Before then the African books I was opportuned to read were written by mainly male writers like Chinua Achebe and although I loved the fact that books like Things Fall Apart…

Don’t Save Him, He Don’t Wanna Be Saved (Plus You Aint His Mama)

I recently came across a tweet that said that men were hurting the females who God had sent to heal them and once again I shook my head in disagreement. I was also affirmed by other Twitter users who pointed out that women don’t come with magical healing powers. That tweet in particular was triggering…

Dear African Feminists Worry Not: You Do Not Come With An Expiry Date

Women were not created with an expiry date in mind. We are like fine wine. We only get better with time.

These “Kitchen Duties” Though…

My people, since when in the history of humankind has boiling rice and stirring soups/stews ever kept a marriage not just together, but truly happy?

It Is Rapey To Congratulate Me For Being a Virgin: Stop It!

upon your death as a woman, your obituary won’t read, “Here lies the wonderful virgin”. Your eulogy would rather be all the things you did to impact the world not your bedroom.

Note To Younger Me

First of all I’m going to call you by your full name. Angel Chinenyenwa Nduka-Nwosu. If you like frown up and down, darling your names are beautiful. I know you sometimes think that Angel is too babyish and that Chinenyenwa is too “Igbotic”(Whatever that means) but in the nearest future you would find yourself returning…

Unlearning to Shave: Redefining The Politics of The Hairy Feminist

It is ridiculous that while I get shamed for having body hair, the average Nigerian teenage boy is equally shamed and called a “pussy” if he does not have a connecting beard.